By Erica Kuschel.

If this doesn’t make you want to visit Peru, then you don’t deserve to see these pics. Shoo shoo scroll away.



His crime is now canon


When no one was looking, Lex Luthor took forty cakes. He took 40 cakes. That’s as many as four tens. And that’s terrible.
From Superman #709, written by Chris Roberson.




His crime is now canon



When no one was looking, Lex Luthor
took forty cakes. He took 40 cakes.
That’s as many as four tens.
And that’s terrible.

From Superman #709, written by Chris Roberson.


I’m getting kind of tired of “why is nobody talking about this?” posts about news. Like dude I only have one primary news source but they are talking about all these things all the time. If you think nobody is covering the news maybe you need to ACTUALLY READ SOME NEWS. (If you get all your news from tumblr, you are not actually monitoring the news.)

"Should parents read their daughter's texts or monitor her online activity for bad language and inappropriate content?"





Earlier today, I served as the “young woman’s voice” in a panel of local experts at a Girl Scouts speaking event. One question for the panel was something to the effect of, "Should parents read their daughter’s texts or monitor her online activity for bad language and inappropriate content?"

I was surprised when the first panelist answered the question as if it were about cyberbullying. The adult audience nodded sagely as she spoke about the importance of protecting children online.

I reached for the microphone next. I said, “As far as reading your child’s texts or logging into their social media profiles, I would say 99.9% of the time, do not do that.”

Looks of total shock answered me. I actually saw heads jerk back in surprise. Even some of my fellow panelists blinked.

Everyone stared as I explained that going behind a child’s back in such a way severs the bond of trust with the parent. When I said, “This is the most effective way to ensure that your child never tells you anything,” it was like I’d delivered a revelation.

It’s easy to talk about the disconnect between the old and the young, but I don’t think I’d ever been so slapped in the face by the reality of it. It was clear that for most of the parents I spoke to, the idea of such actions as a violation had never occurred to them at all.

It alarms me how quickly adults forget that children are people.

Apparently people are rediscovering this post somehow and I think that’s pretty cool! Having experienced similar violations of trust in my youth, this is an important issue to me, so I want to add my personal story:

Around age 13, I tried to express to my mother that I thought I might have clinical depression, and she snapped at me “not to joke about things like that.” I stopped telling my mother when I felt depressed.

Around age 15, I caught my mother reading my diary. She confessed that any time she saw me write in my diary, she would sneak into my room and read it, because I only wrote when I was upset. I stopped keeping a diary.

Around age 18, I had an emotional breakdown while on vacation because I didn’t want to go to college. I ended up seeing a therapist for - surprise surprise - depression.

Around age 21, I spoke on this panel with my mother in the audience, and afterwards I mentioned the diary incident to her with respect to this particular Q&A. Her eyes welled up, and she said, “You know I read those because I was worried you were depressed and going to hurt yourself, right?”

TL;DR: When you invade your child’s privacy, you communicate three things:

  1. You do not respect their rights as an individual.
  2. You do not trust them to navigate problems or seek help on their own.
  3. You probably haven’t been listening to them.

Information about almost every issue that you think you have to snoop for can probably be obtained by communicating with and listening to your child.

Seriously. I normally don’t add to posts so you know this is serious, but I’ve spent most of my life having all my messages screened by my mother behind my back. Not only that, but when I leave the house she searches my room and a while ago she found my diary and read it and it had information in it about me being gay and as such I was forced to come out to her way before I was ready. Treat your children like people. You don’t know how much invading their privacy hurts them. So what if your kid says fuck in a text. It’s not the end of the world. But if your relationship with your kid gets severed, it becomes much harder to legitimately protect them if they get in trouble later, because they won’t trust you, and they’ll turn other places for help. It’s as simple as that.

First, I definitely agree that parents should not snoop through their children’s things. Children need privacy, and I know that when my mother went through my things, it made me a much less trusting and a much more secretive person. It’s actually become a joke that I will be secretive about things for absolutely no reason because I don’t want to risk anything being used against me like it was when I was a kid.

On the other hand, I don’t like the assumption that “adults forget children are people” as a reason for this behavior. It’s not how adults see children that’s the issue, it’s how parents see their children. They need to respect that children become more and more independent and that their independence should be fostered instead of feared. And some of them need to learn that they do not own their children.

I have a lot of thoughts on this as it relates to my own kids. I have mostly thought about access to pornography (as in, I will probably turn off any safe search features when they are about 13 and have a chat about how porn is not real life) but I haven’t thought much about other social media. I feel like there is this prevalence of helicopter parenting and this is part of it.

Arrrgh finally settled into my hotel for the evening (on business trip), all I want to do is watch this week’s Teen Wolf which I didn’t have time to watch yesterday because I was packing for this trip, and I can’t get it to play and the wifi here is shit.

I remember when I very first played Garak, I played him gay! I thought this would be great! He sees this young man, this young, very attractive doctor on the station, he is lonely, he is the only Cardassian there, this doctor is curious about him, and if you remember, this was a great moment because Sid totally went with it! When he comes up and he puts his hand on his shoulder, Sid did this great thing, it was this sort of an electrical charge that went through him and so I played him totally gay in that episode.

Of course the producers did not actually tell me not to play him gay but then they started writing him a little more macho and more like a Cardassian. But I said, “Listen, one of the great things about Garak is that he is not Gul Dukat, he is not one of those macho, militaristic guys, he is your finesse Cardassian.” So we struck a compromise but I was always very clear. I did not get into it in the book. Quite frankly, I was going to go in that direction. I had written a whole thing about Garak’s sexuality because I felt that Garak was sort of - talk about bisexual, I think that he was multisexual, essentially that anything that moves is fair game for Garak. He has a voracious sexual appetite.

Andrew J. Robinson, in this interview with TZN (via tinsnip)








What’s Your Book Shelfie Style?

Not pictured: BOXES

Alphabetical (with some stacked here and there but that’s still a subset of alphabetical for me). I admittedly don’t understand the others, except perhaps personal significance, or height if your bookspace is limited in that way. But hey, everyone’s bookshelves are as they want them and that’s just fine. :D

ETA: I should say I do have some categorical divides too— like books based in a certain setting (Star Wars, Warcraft, etc) are together rather than by author. And my craft books are all together, as are ‘comic’ books (like the Hark! A Vagrant book).

I do categories and “where stuff fits.” I’m pretty good at book Tetris.

oh god this post is so sexy

I shelve by genre. All the fairy tales & folklore are together, all the espionage fiction & non-fiction is together, all the pulps are together, all the Scriblies are together, and at this point unca neil has his own half a bookcase, with pterry being the second half…

Not pictured: Library of Congress categorization.  (Nonfiction only; I’m not a total zealot.)

One time I organized all of my books by publishing company so the little logos would all line up. It was beautiful but I could never find anything.

cuddleroyu asked
Post some pics of big dogs trying to be lap dogs?


Those are best kind of pictures


Hurrah, I have some new great photos of my BB cosplay!

Costume: “Genderbent” Blue Beetle III/Jaime Reyes (DC Comics)
Model & Designmarlene
Backpack Construction: misschubi